Repeat this, underline, bold it, mentally ink it til you memorize it.
On a previous Instagram post, I wrote about the illusion of perfection. I basically fell to the notion that I needed to consistently excel in order to feel “worthy” or credible as a person, that this applied to all areas: my behavior, my looks, the way others perceived me. Guess what, this mode of thinking was just toxic at best.
The way others treat us, behave towards us, or our time with them isn’t a reflection of your self worth. Do not question or doubt your value or hustle based on what someone thinks or their actions toward you. Here’s why: your opinion comes first, your worth isn’t dictated by your relationship status, your net worth, your past, or the media. Do not submit to thinking that you have to change for others to fit in a box. Personally I believe we should continually be growing, progressing, and evolving for ourselves. Some of us were not given that golden principle to: cultivate your own happiness. Some of us are scared to do it. Some of us think we have to look a certain way to get it, but this is truly false.
At the beginning of the year (roughly so) I select a word that will serve me through the year, standing for something I wish to invite and guide me. This year that word is rooted. It serves a purpose on a physical and metaphorical level.
I am truly motivated and enamored by passion. Feeling the spark, the fire of desire. However, it requires balance. It requires honing in with your voice and aligning with what makes you feel passionate, what lights up your spirit.
Rooted: 1. cause (a plant or cutting) to grow roots.
Summer isn’t my jive. I find myself slower to start and a bit more tired. However, I know I can work with the season, not against it. Learning to look at the blossoming flowers or cracks of sunlight at the coming of dusk. Learning to change my rhythm and expectations with this season.
I am practicing thankfulness and calming my inner child who so desperately longs for autumn and the magic that comes with it, however I am nipping my anticipation in the bud and silencing my pace to consider and reflect what I should be investing my time in, what will further my growth? We can be so easily distracted and I ask myself: how many times have I chosen in dwell in doubt instead of seeking inspiration instead? So here is my list for Summer:
✖sketching + drawing
✖normal sleep hours
✖frolicking with nature
✖writing it all down
✖tune in • stress less
✖revel in hazy days with reckless abandon (sort of)
✖Love yourself first. I believe we can be our first and perhaps worst critic. We think we must constantly be on the move, on the go, we set so many expectations on ourselves that hinder our ability to thrive. We believe that our lives must be a specific way or pattern and that others must also align with our expectations.
Whether you wish to put the pen to paper, or search for new adventures through the camera lens, or build roots + stability beneath your soles and peace of mind, you must trust in yourself first, and then invest in yourself, and then build upon yourself. Schedule your happiness in. Dance to the beat of your heart. Cook yourself a nourishing meal. Run through the nearest green grass you can find. Savor in life. Understand that life is not perfect, perhaps it was never meant consistently be so, therefore you must make everyday count. Imbue it with hope, joy, laughter, whatever you wish to integrate in your life.
Remember: Don’t focus on the curated lifestyle of others’. Instead, chose to curate your life + bliss.