My natural state tends to be an optimistic one. I thrive off joy and helping others whenever I can. But I also thrive off self-reflection and recuperation. It’s a balance of the two, learning to be mindful of what I want & need.
But sometimes I do have bad days, those days that make me want to curl up hide or simply leave me frustrated. Or sometimes the news can be overwhelming, sad, and scary.
We can’t stop the bad days or the bad news from happening. I wish we could, but I believe in hope and recovery. Our selves come first, and here I am sharing some ways that can help you through those rough & tumble times, Remember to be kind to yourself and one another.
7 Self Care Ideas For When You Have A Bad Day
Shake it off: Move. When I have a bad day my mood goes low, I don’t feel (read: want to) do much of anything that requires energy. While its fine to allow yourself to feel & ride the waves of emotion there comes a time you want to move out of stagnancy or simply, feel better. So I move. I take myself (sometimes some headphones) and walk along my neighborhood. I challenge myself to notice what’s around me: the movement of wildlife, new flowers, the sky at that very moment. This helps me to stop focusing on why my day was bad or stop any negative thoughts from being so loud. Instead of fixating on something, I get some physical activity and time with myself.
There are studies that show walking or light exercise certainly help improve your mood + mental health
To keep it real, I avoided subscription boxes for a few reasons. I questioned how sustainable they could be if there were items you didn’t necessarily need/want, let alone if they gave you an influx of sample products that collect up and typically are not recyclable. Another reason was the concept of things. I wanted to limit material items in my life to what I genuinely want + need.
For those of y’all that don’t know or are new to the blog, mental health + psychological + physical wellbeing are close to my heart and a passion of mine. It’s one of the reasons I work on this blog to empower others to be kind to themselves + the world. We so often hear about self care yet do we truly practice it? You can live in a tranquil area surrounded by the tallest of trees, wildflowers for days yet still feel the weight of stress atop your shoulders.
However, going back to the concept that there are boxes for everyone under the moon, I came across a subscription boxes that is centered around wellness + self-care. Caring Crate defines themselves as:
“a monthly subscription box service for those dealing with mental health issues, chronic illnesses – or anyone who needs a little extra self-care.” This is what drew me to the company, the fact that its rooted in being okay with addressing + assessing yourself regardless of your journey. Chronic illness, autoimmune disease, and mental health are topics we hear about but there are still stigmas surrounding them. However, I will always advocate that our stories matter, our journeys matter, & focusing on our health is not selfish – it’s might.
I don’t like summer, and that’s why I am letting go of this doctrine. It serves me nothing to clash heads with a season of abundance and birth: the sun is at it’s strongest peak and it’s our final season before the ascent of Fall.
I am someone who thrives in action, movement, creativity. Quite honestly I am still attempting to nail this ‘living seasonally” concept down. One thing I realize is that you must find the time to be conscious of it, which is difficult when you have work, a social life, and other aspects of your life that require your attention. Still, being aware of your surroundings can serve as a means to adapt. I felt like I woke up and summer sprang out of nowhere and yet here we are.
Summer isn’t my jive. I find myself slower to start and a bit more tired. However, I know I can work with the season, not against it. Learning to look at the blossoming flowers or cracks of sunlight at the coming of dusk. Learning to change my rhythm and expectations with this season.
I am practicing thankfulness and calming my inner child who so desperately longs for autumn and the magic that comes with it, however I am nipping my anticipation in the bud and silencing my pace to consider and reflect what I should be investing my time in, what will further my growth? We can be so easily distracted and I ask myself: how many times have I chosen in dwell in doubt instead of seeking inspiration instead? So here is my list for Summer:
✖sketching + drawing
✖normal sleep hours
✖frolicking with nature
✖writing it all down
✖tune in • stress less
✖revel in hazy days with reckless abandon (sort of)
✖Love yourself first. I believe we can be our first and perhaps worst critic. We think we must constantly be on the move, on the go, we set so many expectations on ourselves that hinder our ability to thrive. We believe that our lives must be a specific way or pattern and that others must also align with our expectations.
Whether you wish to put the pen to paper, or search for new adventures through the camera lens, or build roots + stability beneath your soles and peace of mind, you must trust in yourself first, and then invest in yourself, and then build upon yourself. Schedule your happiness in. Dance to the beat of your heart. Cook yourself a nourishing meal. Run through the nearest green grass you can find. Savor in life. Understand that life is not perfect, perhaps it was never meant consistently be so, therefore you must make everyday count. Imbue it with hope, joy, laughter, whatever you wish to integrate in your life.
Remember: Don’t focus on the curated lifestyle of others’. Instead, chose to curate your life + bliss.