Here’s what I know: if you have a rough day it’s absolutely acceptable to nap and let your body + mind unwind. It may even be necessary to indulge in a warm night time shower to come out renew. There’s nothing wrong with warming up a bowl of oatmeal that’s sweetened with dried berries and cinnamon. Each spoonful enveloping you with it’s warmth, nourishing you with flavor, even at midnight when you finally have some peace to yourself.
I’m learning that I need to continuously come clean with myself. To confront myself and not hide away. I’m learning that it’s okay to pick up the pieces of yourself that hurt. This is how you develop strength. Release each breath, deep and cathartic as it may be. Allow yourself to feel because believe me your body longs to let everything out. This is how I revive myself through a difficult time.
It’s the end of November and I have no idea where the time has gone. Tomorrow we welcome in December and soon we welcome winter. Say goodbye to pumpkin spice everything and bring on the peppermint vibes. feel free to share any plans y’all got for winter because I need to get a start on that as well. This November (and most of this Fall) was spent doing all the fall things and I am really glad for all the experiences.
I have a lot of positive thoughts and reflections for this November. November gave me the chance to go inward and experience that growth period. The weather dropped and we even got rain, although I really dislike driving in that weather. But the coziness of experiencing a autumnal month led me to have plenty of time for reflection. There is also a sense of self confidence to state: I need this time for myself.
When we think of the holiday season we conjure up expectations of community, gatherings, and celebration. Some of us decorate our homes and settings. We search for warmth and embark on the hustle. The to-do list of traditions (meals to prepare, plans within family and/or friends, dates to fill in) merges with our everyday life (work, academia, home life, personal responsibilities). All of this is almost expected. Once fall comes in we know that the excitement of the holiday season will spring upon us and fill us with anticipation.
However, I’m writing this to advocate for those who may not have the smoothest time during the season. This can be for many reasons. Not all of us have a strong family unit, some of us get overwhelmed by the idea of an “ideal holiday” and having to “do it all”, some of us experience emotional triggers that we keep to ourselves. Because we choose to hide them or we don’t want to disrupt anyone’s joy. There are many reasons why the holiday stress can bubble even if we don’t project it for others to know.
Repeat this, underline, bold it, mentally ink it til you memorize it.
On a previous Instagram post, I wrote about the illusion of perfection. I basically fell to the notion that I needed to consistently excel in order to feel “worthy” or credible as a person, that this applied to all areas: my behavior, my looks, the way others perceived me. Guess what, this mode of thinking was just toxic at best.
The way others treat us, behave towards us, or our time with them isn’t a reflection of your self worth. Do not question or doubt your value or hustle based on what someone thinks or their actions toward you. Here’s why: your opinion comes first, your worth isn’t dictated by your relationship status, your net worth, your past, or the media. Do not submit to thinking that you have to change for others to fit in a box. Personally I believe we should continually be growing, progressing, and evolving for ourselves. Some of us were not given that golden principle to: cultivate your own happiness. Some of us are scared to do it. Some of us think we have to look a certain way to get it, but this is truly false.