Others actions do not determine your self worth
Repeat this, underline, bold it, mentally ink it til you memorize it.
On a previous Instagram post, I wrote about the illusion of perfection. I basically fell to the notion that I needed to consistently excel in order to feel “worthy” or credible as a person, that this applied to all areas: my behavior, my looks, the way others perceived me. Guess what, this mode of thinking was just toxic at best.
The way others treat us, behave towards us, or our time with them isn’t a reflection of your self worth. Do not question or doubt your value or hustle based on what someone thinks or their actions toward you. Here’s why: your opinion comes first, your worth isn’t dictated by your relationship status, your net worth, your past, or the media. Do not submit to thinking that you have to change for others to fit in a box. Personally I believe we should continually be growing, progressing, and evolving for ourselves. Some of us were not given that golden principle to: cultivate your own happiness. Some of us are scared to do it. Some of us think we have to look a certain way to get it, but this is truly false.
Lately I have been revisiting the genre of poetry. While I wasn’t always drawn to poetry books, I would often write my own & held a few verses close to my heart. The captured meaning held between short verses, the ability to convey so much emotion in the web of words always moved me.
February has been a month of transition. There’s been heartbreak, there’s been growth, buds that have been blossoming, and changes afoot. Unsteady seas have made me stronger. However, it would not have been possible without the love and presence of friends. I’ve allowed myself to go through the feels, whether it was crying my heart out at 2 in the morning or journaling brief prose.
As February is self-love month, I figured we could address of aspect of self-care that I am getting better at managing. Skincare has become a priority in recent months. As I work on protecting my skin in my 20s, it’ definitely a work in progress. I try to be conscious of external factors that could be affecting my skin (think: weather, what you consume, and stress), I try to approach it with a steady mind and I completely accept there are days you skin wants a break!
I’ve focused the root of skincare to be: health, quality products for my morning + night routine, and supporting sustainable companies. I’m introducing a favorite botanical based skincare line of mine: OSEA is a luxury skincare line based out of Malibu, California. Their name reflects the company’s roots in a city by the sea, as well as curating their products with seaweeds that are responsibly sourced from the Sea of Patagonia. Their focus on algae has to do with the abundance of goodness found within: vitamins, minerals, amino acids, antioxidants and essential fatty acids. To top it off, their line of skincare is vegan, gluten-free, and certified organic!
For some, February is the themed month of love, romance, and the palette of rosy tones.
Real talk though: I think we could all use some self love. Whether it’s stress caused by our daily environment (work, school, etc.) or personal lives, (the ever-changing nature of news cycles), or simply the own expectations and ambitions we set on ourselves, sometimes you genuinely need a break. Which means putting yourself first. Which means stepping back to emotional check in with your self – mind, body, & soul.
Turthfully: bad days happen, obstacles happen, circumstances happen. Heartache happens. No matter how much we may try to prevent it, we’ll have those days or periods in our lives that will challenge us. I’ve humbly surrendered to giving myself space to feel my emotions. Instead of holding on or telling myself that nothing hurts me (lie) – I will find the time to let it go and release.